by Tanya Robbins, Guest Author

How to get guy back is what many girls want to know after a break up especially if she realizes that it’s not what she really intended to happen. Often times a girl will act based on her emotions and act hastily only to regret it later. I’m writing the following from my own experience, and hope you can learn a thing or two from it.

Once I had a boyfriend whom I accused of flirting with my best friend. I actually knew that he was just being friendly, but at the time there were a few things in my life that were kinda messed up causing me to feel rather insecure. So I acted immaturely and took it out on my boyfriend. Unfortunately, that upset him and he told me he didn’t want to see me anymore.

Afterward I felt really guilty especially because I still loved him a lot. After crying my heart out I tried to find ways to get my guy back. First I tried to apologize but somehow he thought I wasn’t sincere, and he didn’t want to have anything further to do with me. I got frustrated not knowing what I should do next. So I cried some more.

Then one of my older and more mature friends told me that if I really wanted to "get guy back"  I should write him a note. Not an email, which is easy to do and can be regarded as insincere, but a hard copy letter sent via snail mail. She also told me that my apology had to sound genuine. First of all, I needed to recognize and admit that I was wrong; then I should explain why I acted the way I did, and finally convince him that I would never do it again.

While it’s important to be sincere, you don’t want the letter to be too long. Make it short and sweet. So after some soul searching I wrote him a note that sounded something like this:

"Hey Kevin, I just wanted to let you know I was wrong to accuse you of flirting with Heather.  I snapped at you because I was feeling insecure for a number of reasons which had nothing to do with you.  I know I hurt you badly and I’m very sorry.  In the future, I will be very careful not to lash out at you when I’m feeling sh!tty about myself."

What next? My friend told me to sit back and allow my ex boyfriend some time to process what I had said. She said that could take anywhere from a few minutes to a couple of weeks. I also shouldn’t contact him again by any means. Instead, I should wait for him to contact me. I have to admit that was the hardest part. I was like, "what the…?" But she reassured me that if I wanted to "get guy back" that’s what I needed to do.

I don’t remember exactly how long I had to wait, it seemed like years and I almost gave up. Then it happened! One day Kevin called me because he wanted to pick up some of his stuff that he left at my place. I was kinda caught off guard and delighted at the same time. Fortunately, I remembered my friend’s advice that I should keep it light and not tell my ex boyfriend how much I missed him, or even apologize again. "That’s the right way to get your guy back," she said.

So what I did was brought up a couple of positive experiences we had together like the time we spent at the theme park and the way he held me tight during the roller coaster ride as I was screaming. He responded positively and so I suggested that we meet at our favorite coffee shop. He agreed and I was overjoyed.

From then on everything just fell into place. We talked about more serious stuff and I told my ex boyfriend how much I missed having him in my life. I also reiterated my apology and my commitment to not make the same dumb mistake again. Before I knew it we were back together and I was no longer wondering how I would get my guy back.

Please understand that it won’t always work the way it did with me and my ex boyfriend. If he remains unresponsive you just need to move on and accept the fact that the relationship isn’t meant to be. However, if you seriously want to "get guy back" you ought do everything you can, and there are plenty of strategies and techniques that will increase your chances tremendously. To learn them just click here now! Good luck and have fun.

About the author: Tanya Robbins is the chief editor of www.1webmysteries.com and a staff writer at www.coolinfolounge.com where you can find more interesting articles.